He Supports You And Your Dreams
The biggest sign you have found your Mr. Right is this one. After all, how can he be the right one for you if he doesn’t support you and is constantly threatened by your dreams?
So, ladies! Take note.
And when we say supports you, we mean through his actions, because we all know those shady characters who say they have our best interest at heart but who still keep doing things that undermine our confidence and self-esteem.
Your one true love would never do such a thing!
Instead, he will lift you higher, be a strong pillar of support during your tough times, and will be your greatest cheerleader when you are trying to fulfill your dreams. In fact, when you are feeling low, he will believe in you even more than you believe in yourself!
He Makes You Want to Be a Better Person
Oprah talks about being your best self, and while much of that work has to come from within, being with the right person can make you want to be even better. One of the signs of true love is recognizing that neither of you has to be perfect, but you can inspire one another to be better.
Think of the couples who exercise together or eat healthier. Now think of couples where oneperson exercises or diets while the other keeps on with the same bad habits. Which relationship do you think is more love-based? Right. The one where the couples are partners in better living.
Maybe your guy has made you more aware of the need to recycle. Or bike to work. Or simply be nicer. Whatever that thing is, you feel better by starting new healthy habits.
You Can Be Yourself Completely Around Him
It’s completely normal to want to shine the best light on yourself possible when you first start dating, but as the relationship progresses — and as your feelings get stronger — you should be able to relax a little and be more genuine. That means you’re okay with him seeing you without makeup or in your ancient fuzzy pjs. One of the signs of true love is simply knowing that, no matter what you say or do, you won’t run him off, nor are you afraid of what he’ll think.
Maybe you snort when you laugh. Let it out.
Maybe you fart in your sleep. Again, let it out!
Maybe you talk really fast and ramble. He can handle it.
Realize that, as he’s falling for you, he’s doing the same thing. He might be paranoid about his big stomach, so he’s been sucking it in. Or maybe he snores. But as he relaxes around you, he sees that he doesn’t have to worry about you judging him for these things. Because when you’re in love, none of those little things matter.
You Are Best Friend
Remember when you were a kid, and you and your best friend were inseparable? You spent long days laying in the grass watching the clouds, stayed up all night talking, and shared secrets you would never share with anyone else. When one of you was in trouble, the other one was right there figuring out how to fix it.
When you’re in love with the right person, it feels a lot like returning to those simpler days. You might be dealing with the pressures of work, school, and conflicting responsibilities, and you might not have time to lay in the grass. But you genuinely enjoy each other’s company, you tell each other everything, and you have the unshakable knowledge that if something goes wrong for one of you, the two of you will face it together.
You’re at each other’s side through laughter and tears, and you take comfort from each other. You’re not afraid to be silly, and you’re not afraid to be weak. You like each other’s quirks, and there’s nothing you wouldn’t do for each other.
You’re Confident in Your Relationship
When you’re infatuated, you can be insecure and nervous in a relationship. Every little thing feels like it’s rocking the boat, and you worry you’ll be tossed overboard (break up). But one of the signs of true love is having confidence in your relationship. You know that every argument won’t be the end of your relationship. You don’t worry that he’s out flirting with other women. You know your relationship is strong enough to weather a few bumps, and you’re willing to put in the work to make it better.
You don’t sweat the small stuff, and you know that you are enough for this man.
You Make Mutual Decisions Like A Team
One of the biggest signs you are dating the wrong guy is his need to make all the decisions in your relationship.
He might say he is doing it for your own good or that he is sparing you the anxiety of making big decisions, but they are just lies to cover up the fact that he only cares about his well-being in the relationship. Not yours.
True love doesn’t work that way.
When you truly love someone you want to involve them in all the decisions because it will affect your relationship and both your individual lives.
You work as a team, understand each other’s apprehensions, soothe the deep-seated fears that come up (especially if the decision can change your lives drastically), and then arrive at a collective decision.
You collaborate because you care deeply about the other person’s well-being as well.
You Allow Yourself to Be Vulnerable
When you’re truly in love, you are willing to expose your heart to potential pain. Love is trusting that this person will not break your heart.
If you find yourself still closed off after a traumatic relationship, you might not quite be exhibiting one of these signs of true love, but give it time. It can take a significant amount of time — even years sometimes — to get over serious heartbreak and be open to falling madly in love again.
So what does vulnerability look like? When you say what you really want and feel, you open the channels of communication, and you make room for actually getting what you want. You can let him know that, because you’ve been hurt in the past, you’re finding it hard to be open now. But don’t rush it. If being vulnerable doesn’t come naturally, you may need to work through some past experiences that are blocking you from falling in love again.
You Argue in a Healthy Way
Not arguing at all is just as unhealthy as constantly fighting. If you’re with the right person, you know that conflict is inevitable, and you are genuinely interested in working out your differences.
You both feel comfortable enough to state your opinions openly, and you respect each other enough to consider those opinions valid. You argue your points rather than attacking your partner, and you focus on conflict resolution rather than simply ending the argument. You look for points of common ground, and you seek solutions that work for both of you.
Some people have to learn this, which is possible and important to do. Learning these skills with your partner can make them the “right person” for you.
He Never Puts You Down
If your bae keeps putting you down time and again, especially in front of people, it’s a classic sign that you are in a bad relationship. Because if it was true love, he would never do that! After all, when you truly love someone, you value and respect them, and cannot imagine degrading them ever.
In fact, when it’s true love, he will help you stand up when you fall down.
He will gently tell you that everyone faces challenges in life and that you shouldn’t be afraid of trying again if you have failed once. He will never belittle your mistakes. And he will always help you become spirited again when you are feeling low.
If that’s not true love, we don’t know what is!
You Think Of Him First When Something Exciting Happens
Saw a funny t-shirt on your way to work? You whip out your phone and send him a cute message, telling him that it reminded you of him. Had an argument with a friend? You call him the first chance you get, giving him all the dirt. Got invited to a wedding?
He is the first person you think of asking to accompany you to the event.
From crazy exciting to infuriating, when you want to share all the moments in your life with him, without even thinking for a second whether he would be interested to know or not, it’s a big sign that you have found your one true love. It all goes back to how secure and loved you feel in this relationship.
You Would Gladly Sacrifice for Him
The two of you have been invited to a party at your friend’s house…but his friend from college is in town the same night. Rather than fighting about it or trying to guilt him into going to the party, you tell him you’ll hang with him and his friend.
Or you move in together and you pick a house that’s a shorter commute to his job…and twice as long for you.
You don’t begrudge him for getting his way because you love him. And you know that he’d sacrifice for you just as much. Love makes not having your way not feel like a sacrifice; you’re simply doing it in the name of love.
Use these 11 signs of true love to understand what true selfless love really means. And even if you’re not there yet, don’t worry about it. It’s only a matter of time before a happy romance goes the true love way! Just remember that as long as your lover and you are happy and understand each other, you’re already experiencing the perfect kind of love!